Sluts Still Need To Be Taught A Lesson
Feb 8th, 2006 at 7:50 pm by Susie
I wish I could say I was surprised about this, but I’m not.
When I was 19 and I’d been married for several months, my mother sent me to her OB-GYN. I’d had a pain in my lower right abdomen and I’d been running a fever for months. I’d been to several doctors, all of whom told me it was “all in my head.” One even suggested I buy myself a new hat to cheer myself up.
I knew something was wrong, and my mother wanted to help. So off I went to her doctor.
He told me I had pelvic inflammatory disease and said you could only contract it through gonorrhea or “a criminal abortion.” I told him since I’d had neither, that couldn’t be true. He ignored me and told me I would need a complete hysterectomy and I wasn’t to have sex again for at least six months. I was, to say the least, stunned. And as I was leaving his office, he followed me out into the waiting room full of women and said loudly, “Don’t forget to keep your legs crossed!”
Well, I wasn’t so stunned that I didn’t know this guy was an asshole. When I told my mother what had happened, she called and reamed him out. She said I was a married woman but even if I wasn’t (”Even if she was a prostitute off the streets,” I believe was how she put it), his job was to treat me and not to pass judgment. (I was surprised, but grateful.)
Anyway, I found a women’s health center. They treated me with antibiotics and hot baths, and I was fine in a month or two. The doctor did tell me I had some residual scarring in my tubes that might cause complications later, and suggested if I planned to have children, I should do it sooner rather than later. But no one tried to make me feel bad, or acted like having sex was something for which I should be punished.
I’ve said it all along: It’s not about abortion, it’s the sex. These people are absolutely crazed at the thought of women who have sex and like it. They want it to stop, and if young women have to bear unwanted children or even die as a result, then so be it.
See Wilhelm Reich’s theory of sex-economy: it’s all about suppressing sex and the use of guilt about sex to preserve the patriarchy. Abortion means someone had sex without the intention of bearing a child. Same with masturbation. Same with pornography. Same with birth control. Same with family planning. Same with homosexuality. You see it as underlying government policy, especially in reactionary formations. The above list is the gameplan for fundamentalist America. Women must be denied sexual pleasure in order to keep them under control. Men must be denied sexual pleasure in order to channel their frustrations into violent activities in support of the state.
Power to the state through frustration of the individual.
This is more than “the use of guilt about sex.”
About a year ago, on the old Pandagon (no longer accessible?), Amanda posted an item about the Family Research Council — doesn’t that name sound friendly? They were fighting the approval of a vaccine that protects against the human papilloma virus, or HPV.
The virus is the leading cause of cervical cancer. It is sexually transmitted.
The Family Research Council doesn’t want women to be vaccinated against HPV because, apparently
(a) some women who aren’t married have sex (clearly true), and
(b) if they were not so scared of getting cervical cancer from it, more women who aren’t married might have sex (amazing leap of right-wing logic).
The Family Research Council adopted their policy against the vaccine because, they said, they didn’t want to be condoning sex outside of marriage.
Of course, STDs such as this virus are not transmitted only to unmarried women who don’t keep their legs crossed. They’re also passed to married women and to rape victims, married and unmarried …
… and it’s hard to see how vaccinating against HPV condones extra-marital sex much more than wearing a seatbelt condones premarital auto accidents …
But what the Family Research Council’s position reads like to this Dog is,
(c) women who have sex should run the risk of dying of cancer, because they deserve it. Remember, they should have kept their legs crossed.
It’s not about guilt and frustration. It’s about punishment and the hate-filled wish that women who have sex should go die.
Kind regards,
Dog, etc.
searching for home
Prepare for the day when attorneys advise their female clients to invoke their Constitutional Amendment V rights when someone asks them if they are pregnant, or even when asked if they have a boyfriend.
Not just sex, it’s about control. For the same reason ibogaine, an addiction interrupter, is a Schedule 1 controled substance (no medical value).
For many people sex isn’t any fun unless it’s dirty. Those who consciously perpetuate Patriarchy are more obsessed with sex than anyone else–but there has to be guilt and shame in it, and Wrongdoing. If Pleasure is Sin, then Sin is Pleasure, do you see. It’s a small step from there to the point where pain and punishment are sexualized.
Why do you suppose this guy became an OB/GYN in the first place?
Your Pregnancy is a Punsihment from God…
Your pregnancy is a punishment from God and sluts need to be taught a lesson: “It’s not about abortion, it’s about the sex. These people are absolutely crazed at the thought of women who have sex and like it. They want it to stop, and if young wom…
If this obsession has anything of projection about it, these types are ripe for investigative reporting at the least. At worst they’re probably blackmailing the hell out of each other.
I guess that would explain the lockstep.
Every young lady should always carry a can of mace in her purse. After you’d squirted a nice dose of mace up that ignorant bastard’s nose he’d probably have restrained his filthy mouth with the next patient who came along.
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Yes, we’ll have to move to Iraq soon.
Good for your mother. Do you know how many mothers would not have done that..rhetorical… but quite a few…even now I imagine and that is scary.
I find women all over who laugh at the thought of our rights being taken away, I say mark my words they think I ‘m crazy. It is not yet inevitable but some waking up is in order.