The Man’s Abortion
Jan 7th, 2008 at 8:30 am by Susie
I wonder why these men who are so traumatized by abortion continue to affiliate with a political party that, when it literally comes to putting money where their mouth is, consistently chooses tax cuts for the wealthy instead of housing, day care and health care for the poor - you know, those things that make having a baby a more viable choice.
So it seems to me the person who almost always gets left with the kids has to be the one to decide:
Aubert has since converted to Catholicism. He and his wife have five children, and they sometimes protest in front of abortion clinics. Every now and then, though, Aubert wonders: What if his first girlfriend had not aborted? How would his life look different?
He might have endured a loveless marriage and, perhaps, a sad divorce. He might have been saddled with child support as he tried to build his legal practice. He might never have met his wife. Their children — Christine, Kyle, Roch, Paul, Vance — might not exist.
“I wouldn’t have the blessings I have now,” Aubert said. So in a way, he said, the two abortions may have cleared his path to future happiness.
“That’s an intellectual debate I have with myself,” he said. “I struggle with it.”
In the end, Aubert says his moral objection to abortion always wins. If he could go back in time, he would try to save the babies.
But would his long-ago girlfriends agree? Or might they also consider the abortions a choice that set them on a better path?
Aubert looks startled. “I never really thought about it for the woman,” he says slowly.
“On one level, yes, maybe she got an education, married a great guy, has six kids and everything’s wonderful now,” he said. But he can’t believe it could really be that uncomplicated. “It might bother her once every 20 years or once every five years, or every day, but there’s a scar.”
Because, you know, she couldn’t possibly be handling it any better than he did.
Along with asking his about how the thinks his old girlfriends are doing, I’d ask him if he studied up on contraceptives between abortion #1 and abortion #2. I hear they make a special kind of contraceptive just for men.
Oh, he struggles. Cry me a river.
The big, unspoken fact in the abortion debate is how very, very many boyfriends simply give their girlfriends a few hundred bucks and tell them to take care of it. The unspoken fact is that abortion is a welcome alternative for those men (this group also includes fathers), and they secretly pray every day that it remains legal.
Well, on one hand, we are assumed to get abortions about as casually as we get our nails done. That’s how states justify putting so many obstacles in our path - because, you know, we’re so shallow and thoughtless.
And now we’re apparently ruined for the rest of our lives any time we actually manage to have one.
They didn’t think of him, he doesn’t think of them. What’s the difference and who really cares?
“Morrow, the counselor, described his regret as sneaking up on him in midlife — more than a decade after he impregnated three girlfriends (one of them twice) in quick succession in the late 1980s. All four pregnancies ended in abortion.
Years later, when his wife told him she was pregnant, “I suddenly realized that I had four dead children,” said Morrow, 47, who lives near Erie, Pa. “I hadn’t given it a thought. Now it all came crashing down on me — look what you’ve done.” ”
Okay. He had three girlfriends who had four abortions in quick succession. I smell a self-centered jackass who’s looking for something for people to pity him for.
Sorry. Not the bhodisatva way, eh?
i feel sorry for aubert’s little girls - the ones that got born. imagine having that asswipe for a father.
what kind of fucking self involved jackass goes through this kind of introspection and never once thinks of the woman who actually had the abortion? jesus christ - the article should be called what the fuck is wrong with men and why do women even speak to them let alone fuck them???