Interesting little gadget. Yes, while all the Jesus-y types are busily defending zygotes and making sure people who want it can’t get access to birth control, some of us more practical types are wondering exactly how we’re going to feed, shelter and employ a couple billion more people. (Of course, Jesus will come again and destroy all the non-believers, so that should thin the herd, at least a little.)
You don’t have to be a regular porn consumer to recognize its influence on sexual habits. I’ve only seen two or three porn movies in my life, but I knew right away when the guy I was seeing was a habitual user of porn because he kept reenacting these sexual parlor tricks, things that seemed designed only for a camera in the room – and not the person with whom he was actually having sex.
Some of it was fun, but after a while, it began to get on my nerves. “Look at me,” I used to say to him. (Because I wanted him to make an actual connection with me, and not some mental stroke movie.) “Just look at me.” But usually he didn’t, or couldn’t. Porn was his way of staying disconnected, and safe.
And really, who can compete with that movie in someone else’s head? All that air-brushed perfection, all those high-pitched, eager squeaks of simulated passion. It began to bore me, his inability to actually be there with me. To please him (and yes, to amuse myself, because I’m that kind of person), I started simulating, too. It went on far too long, and by the time I finally came clean with him, it was much too late to salvage things. I’d been emotionally cheated too long.
So if you asked me if I thought porn was harmless, well, no. And that’s why I thought this interview with Cindy Gallop was so interesting.
From my favorite local blog, Phillyneighbor.com:
Have you ever noticed how the Americans most afraid of a terrorist attack live nowhere near any locale worthy of a suicide bombing? In Philly we have a bunch of Liberty Bells and jawns where Declarations of Independences were written, and nobody here seems to give a shit about Al Qaeda.
In fact, I dare a terrorist to start shit in a blue collar neighborhood bar. If he really has balls he might even try going into The Cove on Richmond and Allegheny and talking that holy war shit to some of the friendly biker/gangster types who seem to enjoy that place so much.
Go read the rest.
Big, big news yesterday:
Oct. 27 (Bloomberg) — The Delaware attorney general’s office sued Merscorp Inc., which runs a national mortgage registry used by banks, saying its practices are deceptive and hide information from borrowers.
The MERS database, which tracks ownership interests in mortgages, obscures information from borrowers and impeded their ability to fight foreclosures, Delaware Attorney General Beau Biden said in a complaint filed today.
“MERS engaged and continues to engage in a range of deceptive trade practices that sow confusion among consumers, investors and other stakeholders in the mortgage finance system, damage the integrity of Delaware’s land records, and lead to unlawful foreclosure practices,” Biden said.
MERS tracks servicing rights and ownership interests in mortgage loans on its electronic registry, allowing banks to buy and sell loans without recording transfers with individual counties. MERS acts as the lender’s nominee and remains the mortgagee of record as long as the note promising repayment is owned by a MERS member.
Banks and investors have the true economic interests in the loans, and the ownership of the mortgage notes is purportedly recorded in the MERS registry, to which the public has limited access, according to Biden. Biden said the system is “frequently inaccurate.”
Yeah, I guess you could say that.
New Philadelphia Archbishop Charles Chaput says he isn’t likely to change his mind about creating a window to allow some past victims of sexual abuse by priests to file lawsuits after the statute of limitations in their cases has expired.
Chaput, in a discussion Thursday with the Inquirer Editorial Board, said statutes of limitations exist for sound legal reasons, and that exceptions should not be made just to allow litigation against the Catholic Church.
The problem with this, as the article points out, is that it can take years or even decades for a child sex abuse victim to come to terms with what has happened to him or her, at which point the statute of limitations may be up. On top of that, I think we’ve all seen the lengths the Church hierarchy will undertake to protect and shield their abusive priests. And on top of that, we have the particulars of the Philadelphia archdiocese (pardon the pdf), which (to me at least) demonstrates not only the extent of the criminality in our city, but that the clergy were anything but repentant.
Archibishop Chaput is no differet from any other gangster, if you ask me.
It feels weird clicking the “why I’m not a Catholic anymore” tag, because I’ve never been one.