A very famous song about marriage by Carly Simon. I can’t quite believe I’ll ever want to get married again, but my astrologer friend April, who’s made a study of these things, assures me I have several classic marriage indicators at the end of this year. And you know, it makes me a little nervous. I can’t quite decide whether it would be a good thing:
That’s The Way I’ve Always Heard It Should Be
Hey Suze, we’ve only got one life to live, in so far as we really know. So then, if April sees a soulmate for you, don’t let fear stop you from your true destiny. After all, we are all spiritual beings above all else, and—especially at this time in your life—perhaps it’s time to look forward and believe in the LAWS of ATTRACTION. I did, and I’ve never been happier—-after three relationships—and I’m 64 years old (she’s 66, and so what?, we’re happier than pigs in shit!)
Finding a soulmate – for however long it may last – is great. But has absolutely nothing to do with the societal construct of marriage, in which the woman generally sees to everything, because the man is either incompetent or entitled. Just another piece of propaganda. Keep us all married and miserable (that includes the menfolk too). Those not married or married and divorced are looked on as failures (ha!). No, sorry. I’m 65, single for 28 years, and there’s nothing like freedom (with an occasional half hour or so with some guy I might take a hankering to). I have yet to see a single marriage I would be able to tolerate.
But women make a lot more compromises in marriage. Marriage is a much better deal for men — they usually get someone who takes care of the house, runs the social schedule, does the laundry, etc. I’m not good with gender-determined roles. I do what I want, when I want.
I once thought I could do it again (mind you, it wasn’t what I “wanted,” it just seemed to be a solution of sorts), and I’m really, really glad it didn’t work out. It would have been a friggin’ disaster.
Theoretically, marriage works with the right person, and as my nana used to say, “No pot so crooked that some lid won’t fit.” So we’ll see, but I remain skeptical that I’m suited for the institution.
Oh, I’ve seen some great marriages — not many, just a handful. They’re mostly (but not all) people without kids, or who had grown kids when they got married. Gee, think there’s a connection? LOL
Hey, wait just a minute guys (and girls), just to clarify my personal situation, my mate and I are not LEGALLY married for financial reasons. We are married in a spiritual sense b/c we’d rather share our finances together than be broke apart. And, BTW, we share household stuff—all of it: I do the errands, vacuum, and cook (she HATES cooking, but I love it; she loves cleanliness around the house and does it very well). So, yes there’s hope for all you sceptics—-all men aren’t evil and lazy, and all women aren’t nagging bitches. Just sayin…………………..