As I suspected, there are a lot of layers to the Mary Kennedy suicide story. Her family got their version out first (“Bobby Kennedy is a serial adulterer who made her life a living hell”) and now we have a much more nuanced verion: Namely, that Mary Kennedy suffered from borderline personality disorder:
Kennedys still have connections like few families in America, and after Hankin diagnosed the disorder, Bobby and Mary arranged a meeting with Dr. John Gunderson, a Harvard psychiatrist who is often called the father of BPD. After talking to Bobby and Mary, Gunderson says, “I was convinced the diagnosis of BPD was correct. At the heart of this disorder is a hypersensitivity to other people, such that they can perceive rejection and anger from others when it isn’t there, and when it is there, they react with even more desperation. It is thought that this hypersensitivity is present even in childhood, during which they will often feel neglected or mistreated. That sets the stage for their search for an idealized caretaker. The caretaker oftentimes gets exhausted by the unrealistic expectations. But the caretaker finds it difficult to leave as the partner threatens to kill him or herself.”
I’ve known people like this. They’re exhausting, and yes, everyone does eventually leave them because no one can ever live up to their expectations. No matter how motivated you are, you can’t fix this because at some point, you just want your own life back. I’ve known a few people who put up with it to maintain an intact home for the kids, but I think children are better off being away from the extreme parent.
I have great sympathy for those with mentally ill family members; I don’t think I could handle it. I don’t get emotional satisfaction from allowing people to cross my boundaries.
Dylan Ratigan makes a commencement speech at his alma mater.
A friend sent me the Politico piece on Netroots Nation, complete with a picture of me.
Except, as you know, I wasn’t there this year. It was a picture from 2008, in Pittsburgh. But why should their pictures be any more accurate than the rest of their stories?
Virtually Speaking Sundays | 9pm eastern | 6pm pacific
For this VS Sunday special, Stuart Zechman welcomes Paul Newell: New York Democratic District Leader, grassroots community organizer and reformer. They’ll talk about
- Paul’s history in politics and experience running for Assembly;
- his involvement with Downtown Independent Democrats (DID) and his role as (one of two) District Leader;
- some of the dynamics regarding his Occupy-supportive resolution ultimately passed by DID;
- his ideas, proposals and strategies on campaign finance reform;
- differences in perspectives between grass-roots, partisan Democrats and movement liberals.